When You Realize You Can Make a Difference

I am a stay-at-home mom with two children that are yet old enough to attend school, and an older child that recently wanted to move in with his father (I understand boys need their dads at this age). I am a recent graduate of Bryant and Stratton College. I attended part time for four years to achieve my goal of graduating.

During this time, I worked part time, took care of my son, and attended classes while he was in school. Half way through my college career, I became pregnant and the day semester ended for my last class, I had my first youngest. I still think my project, in which I had to give a speech in front of the class, sent me into labor!

I decided I needed to start online classes, while I took care of the newest. I was able to stop working my part time job, and concentrate on the children and school work. Thankful to my fiancée for making it work out! 18 months later I had my third child. She didn’t wait until semester ended like her sister did though! I went into labor, and two days before my final tests and projects were due, I came home and passed my classes for that semester.

It was an emotional roller coaster to start college at my age and graduate with a nomination for the Honor Society. During the whole experience, I wasn’t sure I would ever make it to the end and achieve my goal of finally graduating, there were a lot of bumps and road blocks along the way. But I did it and I couldn’t have done it without the encouragements I received along the way. I think believing in yourself is the hardest part of any goals. But if you believe in yourself enough, you can make anything happen.

College to me was more than a degree, it was a way to better my life and that of my children. I met my, now fiancée, during an English class we had together. Meeting him was a life changer also. I was finally happy again and he helped me through a lot of life changing moments while we were working our way to graduation.

We are making plans for a better future for us and the children. We are talking about how we would like the smallest ones to be raised, and making sure my oldest is okay with all the plans we are making. Because change is a hard subject for children of separated parents. Living situations are never the same and dealing with the idea your parents are never getting back together is probably the most difficult of it all. Life is a struggle and the world is ever changing, for young children it’s harder to deal with. Just as our troubles were harder to deal with then our parents before us. But that is for another day and another blog.

Through everything, I turned to writing. I want to help others, let them know they are never alone. To me written words are the key to giving someone back hope. Most days, I write and wonder if my words help anyone, and if I am achieving my goal to help others. Sometimes it is hard to express myself in a way that will allow others to understand and relate to what I write. To keep readers interested in what you write is a goal every writer has, and when you get a sign that your written world has touched someone, even if it is just one, is the best feeling in the world. The sign every writer hopes for, and the one that keeps you writing and motivated to keep trying to reach others.

I was blessed enough to be able to help a family friend let their voice be heard through a collaboration, to motivate others that were struggling through chronic pain, as she was. In a blog called: Nature’s Healing and Strength of Spirit. It is a true gift when someone allows you to help them, help others with our written words.

This blog post started when I checked my e-mail. I had a message that a reader left a comment on my blog, and thanked me and quoted back to me the quote I wrote.

'It is never too late to try, it is never too late to change. Your goals may take longer than expected, but just keep moving forward.' "This was written above...I just wanna thank the author, it was just what I needed to hear right now. Glad I discovered you today."

I want to thank that anonymous reader for that boost I needed. If I am meant to do anything in this world, I want to make sure I help others along the way. The best support systems we have are each other. But remember this is also the strongest system to destroy each other. So help someone along the way, and they too will help another, and we can keep going, because it is a never-ending way of life to be that one person that is willing to think of more than just themselves.